Dear Bear, I’m a butch approaching thirty who doesn’t drink and never really has. I’m now feeling conflicted about whether or not I should start. The reasons for my abstinence have been partly situational: I grew up in a family where very little alcohol was around. For...
Dear Bear, I am in a relationship and I can’t tell if it is struggling or if I am self-sabotaging. There are two major factors: multiple stressful life events and my own lack of emotional depth and/or emotional self-awareness. I am not very self-aware in relationships and...
Dear Bear, I am pregnant! It’s so marvelous. I’m a femme-identified ciswoman and I’m married to a somewhat butchier ciswoman who is THE greatest human who has ever lived. She is so loving to the cats and so patient with me. And she’s so good at...
Dear Bear, My partner and I are fretting over taking our 7-year-old to SF Pride. After Orlando and the person arrested with intent to harm LA Pride, it is hard to not feel that SF Pride is a target. Were it just a 20-something me, there...
Dear Bear, I’m hoping you can help me figure out what to do. I am about to graduate from college. I really wasn’t sure what I wanted to do after school. I was pre-med and did well and got into a good med school, but I also...
Dear Bear, How in the world do I deal with my family’s disapproval surrounding me no longer having a relationship, through my own choice, with my terribly abusive dad? I am 23 years old. I have a mom and a younger sister. All three of us were...
